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Be Kinder Than Expected

Be kind. Sounds simple right?

Be Kinder Than Expected. Now that’s where the real meaning comes in…

Call me biased, but I do think I have the best company ‘rule’ out of everyone here: championing and encouraging this type of kindness throughout the company. After all – who wouldn’t want the power to force their colleagues to watch tearjerking videos and say nice things to each other? (Both of which I did during my recent roundtable discussion…)

According to the Internet, kindness is ‘the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate’. I can safely say that everyone here – and the majority of everyone else in the world that I have ever met – has managed to conquer this skill with no real problem. The Internet also states that kindness is ‘doing something for someone and not expecting anything in return’ which is a key point to consider when it comes to the phrase ‘Be Kinder Than Expected’.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible’ says the Dalai Lama. And he’s right. So what stops us from being kind to one another?

Lack of time?

Too stressed?

Clash of personalities?

…Got 99 problems and you don’t need someone else’s too?

Okay, so we might not always be in the ideal frame of mind for carrying out good deeds. And it may sometimes feel like we run the risk of losing out ourselves if we go out of our way to be kind to others. For example, if we take time out of our day to help someone else complete their task, we might not get our own tasks finished. Or perhaps the people we’re trying to assist are really impatient, and we end up being more of a hindrance than a help. Or the act of kindness could be met by a total lack of appreciation.

It’s true that being kind is unlikely to bring fame, get us on TV, or make us rich. But that doesn’t necessarily mean it goes unrewarded. Our reward is seeing the difference our goodwill makes to other people’s lives, and the emotions that we receive as a result of it. You know what they say: money can’t buy you happiness.

So what does it mean to ‘Be Kinder Than Expected’? Here’s my definition:

Being kinder than expected is the mindset of making the extra effort to listen, understand and support others in a day-to-day situation. It is the choice to willingly go out of your way (more so than usual) in order to help someone or make him or her feel better.

You do not expect anything in return – other than positive and rewarding emotions for yourself, and to bring comfort or aid to the individual that you are being kind to.

As an ending thought, I want to ask you ‘What was the last kind thing you did?’ I asked my peers the same question during my roundtable discussion and received results varying from ‘making a cheese and pineapple hedgehog for a friend’s wedding’, to ‘saving a pug’s life’. (Yes, these are the type of crazy individuals I work with.)

But why should we do kind things? And why should we make the effort to Be Kinder Than Expected? Because…

Kindness. It doesn’t cost a damn thing. Sprinkle that shit everywhere.

I’m not saying you have to bear animal-shaped cheese gifts for all your friends, or jump into the road to save a dog in peril, but perhaps just take a note of the video below by YouTuber Kid President